| Flirting with men is so fun and so simple. So | | | | When flirting becomes part of your daily life |
| why don't we do it? | | | | rather than a specialized skill that you |
| | | | apply only when you meet a potential Mr. |
| One man recently wrote me that it was true | | | | Perfect, you'll find that magic starts to |
| that flirting was a great way for women to | | | | happen. You make friends more easily. You |
| attract men, but he was "yet to experience | | | | become the life of the party. You find it |
| this from a woman, must be fun." | | | | easier to strike up a conversation with |
| | | | strangers. |
| Men LOVE it when women flirt with them! They | | | | |
| love the fun aspect of it: the playful | | | | Best of all, when flirting feels natural to |
| banter, the dance of eye contact, and the | | | | you, you no longer will feel awkward when |
| sheer joy of being surprised by the | | | | faced with a handsome man that you'd like to |
| unexpected. | | | | know better. You'll feel confident, because |
| | | | you know that other people have enjoyed your |
| Best of all, flirting is immensely | | | | flirting. You won't even have time to get |
| flattering. It's an indication of interest in | | | | nervous, because your flirting skills will |
| another person, even if that interest is not | | | | kick in and start the conversation for you. |
| romantic in nature. The best flirts know how | | | | |
| to make the other person feel special without | | | | But being the best flirt in the world won't |
| expecting anything in return. | | | | protect you from the one thing that every |
| | | | flirt must face: rejection. |
| If you are going to improve your flirting | | | | |
| skills with men, here are three tips that | | | | 3. Don't take rejection personally. |
| will give you a SUPER flirting mindset. | | | | |
| | | | The one sure way to kill the spirit of |
| 1. Flirting is playful, not serious. | | | | flirtation is to see it as in terms of |
| | | | success and failure. As I said earlier, your |
| If you give a man a compliment, are you | | | | goal is simply to make the other person feel |
| flirting? If you make eye contact, does it | | | | special without expecting anything in return. |
| count as a flirtation? If a stranger teased | | | | If the other person doesn't want to return |
| you when you were walking up to the bar, was | | | | your comment, or wink back, it's no more |
| he flirting? What exactly IS flirting, | | | | devastating than a playmate saying that they |
| anyway? | | | | don't want to play right now. |
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| Flirting is distinguished by its playful | | | | Luckily, your chances of rejection are lower |
| nature. You cannot be a serious flirt. | | | | than you think. Most people go through life |
| Remember how boys used to tease you in grade | | | | wishing for greater connection with others. |
| school, and you used to tease them back? | | | | When we're standing in a crowded elevator or |
| That's the kind of playful spirit you want to | | | | waiting in line at a busy shop, most of us |
| invoke while flirting (although I don't | | | | would love someone to start a conversation |
| recommend pulling anyone's pigtails!). | | | | with us. It can be such a delight to meet |
| | | | someone new, even if our conversation only |
| A flirtatious encounter will usually involve | | | | lasts for a few minutes. |
| three elements: | | | | |
| | | | Think of your flirtation as an offering: |
| * Humor (or wit), | | | | you're offering someone the possibility of |
| | | | connection, and if they don't want to take |
| * Risk, and | | | | it, you simply offer it to the next person. |
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| * A display of interest. | | | | Sadly, the art of flirting has declined so |
| | | | greatly that many people don't know what to |
| For example, a witty comment is one common | | | | do when someone flirts with them. They may |
| way to start flirting with someone, but by | | | | feel uncomfortable and turn away or ignore |
| being the first to make a move, you're | | | | the flirtatious glance or comment, because |
| putting yourself at risk of rejection. If | | | | they have no clue what they should do. |
| your flirtatious comment pushes boundaries, | | | | |
| you're also taking the risk that the other | | | | If you keep a playful mindset while flirting, |
| person may not find your sense of humor | | | | and practice it whenever and wherever you |
| amusing. | | | | can, you'll find that your fears of rejection |
| | | | dissipate until you can no longer remember |
| Beginning flirts may find it uncomfortable to | | | | why you let them keep you from making the |
| put themselves in the vulnerable position of | | | | first move. |
| displaying their interest in another person | | | | |
| without knowing whether that person will even | | | | For a further discussion of flirting tactics, |
| respond. That's why the next point is so | | | | look no further than "How to Be Irresistible |
| important. | | | | to Men." Sarah Paul's original e-book will |
| | | | teach you how to use flirting to take your |
| 2. The best flirts practice on everyone. | | | | interactions with a man to that next level. |
| | | | You'll also learn how to be funny, how to |
| You'll never become a great flirt if you only | | | | master the art of conversation, and how to |
| flirt with men you like. Flirting is one of | | | | give compliments to a man. It's everything |
| life's greatest joys, and it should be | | | | YOU need to know about flirting, in an easy |
| practiced whenever and wherever possible. | | | | step-by-step format. And it's all part of the |
| Flirt with the waiter at the coffee shop. | | | | complete "How to Be Irresistible to Men" |
| Flirt with the bus driver. Flirt with the old | | | | course, which includes advice on how to kiss |
| man standing behind you in line. | | | | and how to overcome any shyness that may be |
| | | | preventing you from flirting with men. |