| Bringing healing to family relationships can | | | | and feels with us. This can be done with |
| be one of the most difficult aspects of the | | | | prayer, intention, meditation, creative |
| spiritual healing process. The reason for | | | | expression, or any way that resonates. Once |
| this is that we choose to incarnate within | | | | we have become more conscious of the pain we |
| our specific families for the purpose of | | | | carry, the next step involves the willingness |
| healing and growth, which often challenges us | | | | to let go of our pain. Though on the surface |
| deeply to the core of our being. For many of | | | | it may seem strange to want to hold onto |
| us it may feel as though healing is exactly | | | | pain, there are many deep emotions that can |
| the opposite of what we are receiving with | | | | become entrenched within us, and wrapped |
| our families, as we endure the difficulties | | | | around our sense of self. We unconsciously |
| and limitations of our relationships with our | | | | hold on to the pain, because it is all we |
| parents and siblings. Before incarnating, we | | | | have ever known. For example, if we are |
| choose families which can bring to the | | | | carrying anger, hurt or betrayal, we are |
| surface specific issues and themes that our | | | | asked to forgive and to move on. If we were |
| soul wishes to explore, learn about and heal. | | | | the victim of abuse or neglect, we are asked |
| Often these issues are challenging and bring | | | | to let go of our anger, and our entitlement |
| to the surface discomfort that we would | | | | to be angry. This part of the process cannot |
| prefer go avoid rather than face. Some people | | | | be rushed, which is why it is so important to |
| deal with this discomfort by placing blame on | | | | be willing to feel our emotions fully first. |
| their parents or the situation they were born | | | | Once this happens, the next step of healing |
| into, which provides a temporary outlet for | | | | naturally unfolds. Once we have traversed |
| the emotional pain they have experienced, but | | | | these steps of becoming conscious, feeling |
| ultimately prevents the free flow of love, | | | | our pain, and being willing to let it go, |
| light and healing in the heart. As we grow | | | | then we are fully available to receive a deep |
| personally and spiritually, there comes a | | | | and complete healing. As we voluntarily empty |
| time when we are called to release ourselves | | | | ourselves of those things we've been holding |
| from the emotional pain we have carried from | | | | onto, more of God's love and light can enter |
| our childhood. There are steps in this | | | | our heart, mind and body. The pathways of |
| process, which may taker a shorter or longer | | | | life begin to open up and reveal new |
| time, or which may involve many lifetimes of | | | | directions, new possibilities, and new |
| learning. The first step we take is to become | | | | choices. Our hearts begin to open and love |
| conscious of the pain we are carrying. If we | | | | blossoms, forgiveness becomes a way of being, |
| have repressed these feelings, they will | | | | and spiritual awareness awakens within us. |
| emerge when we are ready to face them. | | | | These are the gifts that come through healing |
| Sometimes an event such as an illness or a | | | | family relationships, a heart full of love |
| loss can illuminate feelings we have buried | | | | and trust, unencumbered by the pain of the |
| or forgotten. Once we become conscious of the | | | | past. |
| pain and allow ourselves to simply feel it, | | | | |
| healing can begin. Being with the pain, and | | | | Mashubi Rochell is a spiritual counselor and |
| bringing it before God is an essential part | | | | the founder of World Blessings, an online |
| of the process. In this way we are not alone, | | | | spiritual support community for people of all |
| as the divine Creator who is All sees, hears | | | | faiths. |